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Can People Change

Can People Change?

coaching communication personal growth Jan 04, 2023

Some quotes stick with you once the words echo in your ears. For me, this has been the case with Maya Angelou’s quote, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” 

I found myself in an internal struggle with these words. I believe that things are rarely what they appear to be on the surface. Even when we remove the masks and facades that we, as people, tend to wear - we're incredibly diverse and complex beings.

To state that someone is able to show you who they are the first time would mean that the person fully understands who they are and that they're acting on this knowing every waking second.

Now let me ask, how many of us fully understand who we are? Totally…completely…truly? And for those fortunate few who do have this strong knowing, how many are being that authentic self 24 hours a day, 7 days a week?

We are all on this journey of self-discovery. Even if you know who you are and are being your authentic expression, you'll change as you move through life. And the same is true for everyone. Evaluate another person for actions or choices as you get to know them blocks growth and connection.  

This isn't to say healthy boundaries shouldn't be in place - but to assume that people are unable to change limits everyone's ability to learn and grow.

I love and honor Maya Angelou and thank her for the opportunity to consider these words. I may not align with them, but I am grateful that they sparked the chance for me to look deeper within and understand why.

That is the strength in words and the very point in this post. We aren’t always going to agree and we aren’t all going to align. But, we are ever changing, ever exploring, ever shifting in our awareness. What you know and believe today will likely not be the same in five years and certainly won’t be the same in fifty years.

So yes, in my humble view, people can and do change constantly. I know I do and I believe you do too. ♥ 


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